tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6941552988577512772.post3423299079604728358..comments2013-10-03T04:01:16.477-07:00Comments on Raising a Traumatized Child: 020412 (022312) Why do you guys keep coming here to see what I've written?Other Motherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03235687608533130437noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6941552988577512772.post-16638455053019905252012-07-09T22:31:18.211-07:002012-07-09T22:31:18.211-07:00Well, I come because your story feels familiar to ...Well, I come because your story feels familiar to me. And knowing there's someone else kind of like me out there helps me feel less alone and less, um, weird. Also, I've come to care about you and Abel through your books and want to be able to support you. And I love your honesty, and your sarcasm. ;) I happen to pretty good with the zingers myself; perhaps it comes with the territory??shelilahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11083445258633105576noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6941552988577512772.post-45145671891405876712012-02-24T09:17:00.092-08:002012-02-24T09:17:00.092-08:00Annie, as far as I'm concerned, you don't ...Annie, as far as I'm concerned, you don't write enough! <br /><br />It's funny that you should mention writing and art. He's a wonderful writer and he just started talking about wanting to do some art photography. <br /><br />His parents did endure abuse and we have talked about it, quite a lot. He understands and doesn't understand. I'm just about in the same place. I know first hand what abuse can do to a child and their ability to live a loving life. I also know that you can fight not to pass the legacy on to your kids. I know in my head that some people are too ill to be able to fight, but my gut still feels all the anger that they didn't stop themselves from hurting him. I think that's how he feels, too. He can feel some compassion for them, but then the rage comes in and swamps that. He is, though, extraordinarily and rightly proud of knowing that he will never pass the legacy of child abuse to his children.Other Motherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03235687608533130437noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6941552988577512772.post-2484275222865633652012-02-24T03:46:21.225-08:002012-02-24T03:46:21.225-08:00Wanting to do something CONCRETE is a "guy th...Wanting to do something CONCRETE is a "guy thing". I was listening to a psychologist on NPR talking about dealing with death and for men, they must DO something. I've seen a lot of that in other areas....was remembering a dad in our parish whose daughter was born with a disfiguring birthmark on her face and he wrote a children's book about that sort of issue and self-publised it. <br /><br />Maybe Abel can find some other way to "make it right" - I think of things like working in law enforcement, or running a shelter, or counseling...etc. <br /><br />Undoubtedly, too, his parents endured abuse of their own. Have you ever tried to find out more about them, to understand them? If he could see them as victims - victims who never (like him) got any chance to be loved or to heal, maybe that would help in some way..... He might be old enough for that.<br /><br />Or writing? Art? <br /><br />You have a LOT to say - sheesh! More than me and I write too much!Anniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12623179886908222942noreply@blogger.com